People spend a lot of time trying to resolve issues permanently, but without any success, for a very long time. Conflicts still arise and have an impact on every aspect of our personalities and everyday lives. Few of us can resolve disputes in a precise manner that is advantageous to both parties involved. There is no denying that while a dispute is brewing, we tend to be prejudiced toward ourselves. Since, at the time, it feels like the right thing to do. Since WE ARE RIGHT, other parties cannot be! Particularly, in this case, the likelihood of the conflict escalating to the point of no return rises.

Conflicts in relationships

Relationships frequently experience conflicts and disagreements, therefore the best method to resolve them whenever they arise is to identify the root cause of the issue. A substantial portion of us will become emotionally involved in disputes. It will be biased toward what they believe to be right. Without allowing the other party the opportunity to express themselves and be prejudiced toward what they believe to be right as well. This conflict will inevitably worsen until there is no turning back. 

The fact that we can come up with different resolutions to any argument or conflict when we are not in conflict is extremely astonishingly weird. It demonstrates how capable people can be when they are not completely controlled by their negative, self-defeating attitudes. The quality of the answer that results is always fantastic. So why don’t we just do that? We typically do not recognize how vital it is to listen to others’ explanations of why they believe their approach is the best way. But why don’t we just do that? When it comes to resolving disagreements, confrontations, and arguments, we are almost always unwilling to compromise. However, compromise and sacrifice are essential for maintaining relationships, especially marriage ones.

You already know this. How often did your parents tell you as a child to “let it go” if you got into a fight with your younger sibling? You may have found it difficult to let go. But you overcame a disagreement that could have damaged your relationship with your sibling. It’s because you understood what it meant to make a sacrifice.

Consequences of conflicts in a relationship

“When there is no enemy within, the enemy outside can do you no harm”.

This is an African proverb that I’ve heard. It is up to us to decide how to handle disputes – we may either choose to avoid them or cooperate with them. We hunt for justifications for every dispute. Strangely, we always find one that makes us subconsciously content with it, though that satisfaction isn’t necessarily a true sensation.

When no one is marching against us, we can be our own worst enemy. Are we aware of the concrete and unavoidable consequences of a conflict? We can observe how disagreements affect other people, but for some reason, we don’t believe that it would ever happen to us since we wouldn’t go to that extreme, do we? Conflicts are more than just disputes! Although I wish they were, they are much more than that.

For child custody, parents go before the courts! Have they ever considered what might occur to the child? Which state of mind will he or she be in following this? Family members file lawsuits against one another over ridiculous possessions, and friends fight and destroy one another over silly sporting contests to the point that they start putting each other’s lives in danger!

Sometimes I wonder what happened to common sense and logic. Why do we let our egoistic and self-centered thinking blind us so much? Conflicts will only end in a tragic and painful breakup of a lovely and promising relationship if we continue to feed them with our naive chants of “me, myself, and I.”

Managing conflicts in relationships 

We tend to believe that we have promises and assurances about how capable and in control we are. But are we as smart as we think we are? We are not powered by the way we perceive ourselves, at least not until we put that potential to a test. If we are capable of resolving a fight instead of letting it ruin our relationships with our loved ones, then that is what will power us.

The true elevating power is when you have a compelling reason to live for. You ought to be able to erect a sturdy, impenetrable wall of protection around your loved ones. In addition to being able to decide what is most crucial for you and your family. Will your eagerness to provoke an avoidable argument to jeopardize your relationship? Or to lead a life free of conflict? Teach yourself how to confront your selfish and egotistical tendencies since doing so will make it easier for you to choose to live a life without conflict.

I heard Dr. Jordan B Peterson once say ” If you want to know something about yourself, sit in bed one night and ask yourself, what is one thing I am doing wrong, that I know I am doing wrong, that I could fix, that I would fix “.

With a little meditation with that, you will get an answer, I do not think it will be the answer you want, but it will be the necessary one.